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This, all this, so much this. My SS & DMV name/gender updates were in computer glitch hell on the 20th, & my gut was knotted in anxiety all day long. The morning of the 21st, though, I went to my SSA office, told them I needed it fixed, & got a walk-in appt. It took two agents half an hour to resolve the issue, but we did it, & as of last night I am officially me β€” the real me β€” on my SS account. Which means tomorrow I can go back to the DMV for the 3d time to finish updating my license. πŸ™ŒπŸΌ

Next up, birth certificate & passport. BC I’m not worried about, & I’ll be fine with whatever passport gender I wind up with precisely because my name will be correct regardless. Ari is exactly right.

Do not panic; do not let the bastards get you down! ✊🏼 ✊🏼 ✊🏼

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Thank you for sharing your thoughts and courage, Ari. I am an ally, and I am a brown, cis man. I know they don’t like me either, and I also know that I’m not going anywhere, especially back. I wear my Pride beads on my right wrist so to be easily identified by anyone who will look. I stand with you because I am an ally.

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choking up reading this ugh i’m so sad but more than ever in solidarity with other queer and trans people <3😒 there is no legislation that can erase us

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love this, thanks for the words of inspiration

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Thank you Ari <3 πŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈ

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Thank you for sharing. I really needed to read this right now.

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<3

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We have been renewing our passports online and encountered a quizzical request to verify that our first name and gender have not changed (this after already confirming the pre-existing information from our expired passports).

We were then asked to provide a recent waist-up photo, which again seems weird. As recently as last September, credible online information explains that β€œa perfect square image” of the β€œhead and shoulders” is what's required for passports.

Why does the US State department suddenly need to see my torso? Apparently, they have reasons.

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My renewal was submitted mid-January; so we’ll see what happens

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This is the first post that has gotten me to subscribe right off in MONTHS. You rock. Thank you.

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Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

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