What you are suggesting is healthy coping - it is positively reinforcing yourself to be ready to stand up and make change happen when you have the opportunity. While the internet, especially the queer internet, lacks a lot of nuance to determine the difference, where it is important to make the distinction is people who confuse “coping” with “avoidance.” I’ve run into far too many queer people who have decided not to cope, not to just say “I’m going to pretend nothing is bad for today” but rather “I’m going to pretend nothing is bad at all, ever.” We will all need healthy coping skills to get through the next four years…but if we want to ensure that it is JUST the next four years we need to eventually face up to the world in order to do something to fix it. Part of that is preparing to try and get control of Congress back to limit what horrors this administration can do, and I think far too few are thinking about that, and far too many who just assume in four years people will make good decisions and everything will be okay again.
Coping is just another word for dreaming. Without the capability to imagine a world that is better, more caring, more fabulous than one's current reality, none of us would have a reason to crawl out of bed in the morning.
"Growing up it all seems so one-sided
Opinions all provided
The future pre-decided
Detached and subdivided
In the mass production zone
Nowhere is the dreamer
Or the misfit so alone"
-Rush, Subdivisions
Here's to the dreamers and misfits... here's to all of you. 😄😁
Coping is a sign of hope. An expectation that life will eventually return to normal or even acceptance. It’s an excellent post.
What you are suggesting is healthy coping - it is positively reinforcing yourself to be ready to stand up and make change happen when you have the opportunity. While the internet, especially the queer internet, lacks a lot of nuance to determine the difference, where it is important to make the distinction is people who confuse “coping” with “avoidance.” I’ve run into far too many queer people who have decided not to cope, not to just say “I’m going to pretend nothing is bad for today” but rather “I’m going to pretend nothing is bad at all, ever.” We will all need healthy coping skills to get through the next four years…but if we want to ensure that it is JUST the next four years we need to eventually face up to the world in order to do something to fix it. Part of that is preparing to try and get control of Congress back to limit what horrors this administration can do, and I think far too few are thinking about that, and far too many who just assume in four years people will make good decisions and everything will be okay again.
Thanks i need this today 🙏
This. Thankful for all the gentle life rafts of coping - including these words.
Coping is just another word for dreaming. Without the capability to imagine a world that is better, more caring, more fabulous than one's current reality, none of us would have a reason to crawl out of bed in the morning.
"Growing up it all seems so one-sided
Opinions all provided
The future pre-decided
Detached and subdivided
In the mass production zone
Nowhere is the dreamer
Or the misfit so alone"
-Rush, Subdivisions
Here's to the dreamers and misfits... here's to all of you. 😄😁